Advice for Los Angeles Singles Seeking Love, as Told by a Matchmaker

So you’re one of the many Los Angeles singles who puts time and effort into your career, optimizing your physical health, and cultivating a life that’s perfect for you. So let me ask you this: why haven’t you put the same amount of effort into optimizing your dating life? 

If you’ve tried all the apps out there only to be let down time and time again, wondering where you’ll find that diamond in the rough—without wasting precious time and loads of money—it may be that you simply haven’t found an efficient way of dating or you may be secretly closing off on love without even knowing it!

As someone who’s been running a matchmaking company for 3 years for singles in Los Angeles and Socal, I’ve seen it all. Below is my top advice for dating (and using apps!) to find love in the City of Angels. 

Don’t limit yourself to one area code

Los Angeles has always felt like an accumulation of different cities, wrapped up into one concrete jungle of dreams and opportunities. But traffic jams and parking tickets have burned most people out from exploring new areas and phrases like “I don’t go east of the 405” are now commonplace. 

Well, I’m here to say: don’t let geographical logistics get you down on love!

Expert tip: If it’s over an hour’s drive away, start with a FaceTime call! You can get a good feel of their personality this way. And while nobody’s lighting is perfect at home, it’s a great way to decipher if it’s a genuine, right fit that’s worth the commute!

Start conversations that lead to real dates

As a busy professional, you most likely don’t have time to deal with the tedious hours of small talk that is in the online dating world—especially if you’re never going to meet most of those people in real life!

So next time you match with a cutie you like, forgo the “how was your weekend” and take charge by asking something that opens up the possibility of a future relationship such as:

• “I’m really into Enemy at the Gates by Vince Flynn right now. What books are you currently reading?” OR
• “I’m taking French lessons so I can properly order wine during my next trip to France. What’s a goal you’re working toward?” 

Expert tip: On that date, it’s important to not “interview” people! Nobody likes that. Instead, if you’ve taken the time to do your due diligence online, discuss what you have in common such as favorite activities, countries/cities you’ve traveled or hidden gems you’ve found in SoCal.

As a premium member of The List, our matchmakers do all the due diligence on your behalf and provide full bios of the match before the date. We also provide topics sure to spark a connection—setting up the first date for success.

Manage your expectations from the beginning

When you meet someone in real life and you immediately hit it off, you could talk for hours without even knowing the person’s job title; and you most certainly would not ask them their height, weight, or income. 

Sure, you might get caught up under “tall” or “beautiful” but our subconscious is working through a million and one factors when we meet someone for the first time to decipher if that person is the right fit, such as “great smile” “nice smell” and “charismatic” that add up to an immediate attraction.  

So why are we putting so many limiting factors (must be 6 ft tall, must weigh 125 lbs, no blondes, etc!) on our profile bios and judging people based on one profile photo? You could be swiping left on your soul mate!

Be genuine in your profile

Raise your hand if you’ve ever been personally victimized by catfishing?

Dating profiles are commonly exaggerated, if not complete untruths. At The List, we create a personalized profile bio for Los Angeles singles that captures exactly who you are and attracts your ideal partner. In a sea of CEOs, Founders, and Owners, it’s important to be real and clear about who you are so you don’t waste anyone’s time. 

Don’t wait “for the right time”

Finally, the most sentimental piece of advice for Los Angeles singles: there is no right time! There are always going to be deadlines at work, ten pounds to lose, holidays to get through, other priorities. If you’re waiting for a better time to date, you’ll be waiting forever. 

So get out there! Get in touch with us at The List today, the perfect solution for Los Angeles singles ready to stop wasting time online and beeline their way to love.